Sunday, December 27, 2015
Nativity with San Francesco e San Lorenzo by Caravaggio.
Dum medium silentium tenerent omnia, et nox in suo cursu medium iter haberet, omnipotens Sermo tuus, Domine, de coelis a regalibus sedibus venit.
While all things were in quiet silence and the night was in the midst of her course, Thine Almighty Word, O Lord, leaped down from heaven from Thy royal throne. (Wisdom 18:14-15)
Today is the Sunday within the Octave of Christmas. Traditionally, on this day, the faithful pause for some theological consideration of the mysteries of the season. My missal notes, "the sacred liturgy, in revealing to us the supernatural Sonship of our Lord Jesus Christ, which affects our souls more especially at this time of Christmas, makes the Divinity under the aspect of Fatherhood resplendent in our eyes."
In the revised calendar, these considerations are brought into focus with a celebration of the Holy Family -- which this blog will do on its traditional date.
Today, 27 December, is the third day of the Christmas Octave, and the Feast of St. John the Apostle and Evangelist.
He, the brother of St. James, was one of the sons of Thunder, and was known as the "Beloved" Apostle. He, with St. Peter and St. James had a prominent role as one of the leading Apostles. Of course, St. John is also notable for having been entrusted with the Blessed Virgin Mary at the Crucifixion: "Behold your mother." He wrote not only the Holy Gospel according to St. John, but three Epistles and the book of Revelation. The last of the Apostles to die, and the only one to actually escape martyrdom (though it was not from a lack of trying on persecutors' part).
For more on St. John, you might check out these links:
Old Catholic Encyclopedia: St. John the Evangelist
Catholic Saints Info: St. John the Apostle
Seasonal Customs (Fisheaters): Feast of St. John
Merry Christmas and live well!
Saturday, December 19, 2015
A Top Hat.
This blogger some years ago wrote a guide to proper etiquette for gentlemen which the gentle reader might enjoy or find edifying, and which is presented below:
COLE'S RULES OF ETIQUETTE FOR GENTLEMEN
A short guide to acting as a proper gentleman
The author’s intent in writing these guidelines is to educate men on how they ought to act as gentlemen in everyday circumstances. With great disappointment, I perceive that chivalry has almost completely disappeared in our society. Some of these noble customs can be easily incorporated into the habits of the typical man. A true gentleman is more than just one in his external actions, however, but in every aspect of his life. He should strive for the good, live his faith, fulfill his duties with care, and avoid giving offense. Men: to act as true gentlemen is a challenge. To you ladies: you should expect and require that you be treated with the respect that is demanded by virtue of that which you are, a lady.
Chapter I: Greetings & Farewells
Section 1: When walking past or greeting someone, a gentleman should address another with some polite and respectful salutation. "Good (time of day)" is always appropriate, as is "Greetings." "Howdy" or "Hello" may be used in less formal situations. "What’s up," and "Hey" are to be avoided. The use of the other person’s name is always very good, so long as the first name is not employed when speaking to a superior. Superiors can be greeted using their title: "Good morning, Doctor." Clerics should always be addressed by their ecclesiastical title, even if they hold an academic degree. In certain circumstances, it is acceptable to use a person’s name by itself. "Sir" or "ma'am" may be used in quite a variety of situations, especially when addressing a superior. When encountering a group of ladies or gentlemen, he should address a greeting to the whole group, such as "Good evening, ladies," rather than address each individually.
Section 2: It is always appropriate to introduce someone with the phrase, "May I present…?" The correct reply upon meeting someone for the first time is "How do you do?" The younger man is always presented to the older, and the gentleman to the lady. It is then the lady or superior who offers his or her hand first.
Section 3: When bidding farewell, such statements as, "Fare [thee] well," "Have a pleasant/good (time of day)," "Good-bye," "Godspeed," and "Good Night," are all suitable and to be used frequently.
Chapter II: Rules of the Hat
Section 1: When greeting a lady, the removal of the hat with a slight bow of the head is suitable. This should also be used when greeting a superior. When greeting his equal, a touch of the right hand to the hat brim, or a tip thereof is always in order.
Section 2: A gentleman generally should not wear a hat indoors, except in stores, public buildings, or lobbies. He should also remove his hat when praying, or when he is speaking to a lady. If a gentleman is speaking to a lady while in inclement weather, or walking with her, however, it is permissible for him to replace his hat after the initial greeting.
Chapter III: Attire & Appearance
Section 1: A gentleman should always dress in a manner that conveys the respect he should have for himself and those around him. The same applies to the cleanliness and order of his room, belongings, and person. A gentleman’s dress should befit the activity he is undertaking, regardless of the dress of his peers or whether he is seen.
Section 2: In addition, a gentleman should hold himself in a dignified manner at all times. Thus, he should have good posture, and avoid lounging around or slouching.
Chapter IV: Conversation
Section 1: A gentleman should always act as such in conversation. Needless to say, he should avoid any conversation that would constitute a near occasion of sin, or lack taste or decency, as he would the plague. When he speaks with a superior or with a lady, the gentleman ought to address the other with such respect as they deserve.
Section 2: He should also endeavor to speak well and use proper grammar, avoiding slang and nonstandard speech.
Section 3: In addition, the gentleman ought not dominate conversations, but seek to engage all.
Section 4: Finally, he would do well to avoid raising his voice, even if he is extremely distressed.
Chapter V: Dining
Section 1: A gentleman should always act in a restrained, mature, and mannerly fashion while eating. This is all the more the case in the presence of ladies or superiors.
Section 2: A gentleman should seek the permission of those already seated before joining them.
Section 3: He should always thank those who serve his meal.
Section 4: If he rises to obtain something, he should always make certain that no one else is in need of anything.
Section 5: A gentleman should take care never to reach over others during a meal.
Section 6: At the close of the meal, a gentleman should thank whoever cleans up, and be ready himself to assist in cleaning.
Section 7: When a gentleman is taking a lady to a meal, he ought to pay for it, provided circumstances suggest or allow for this. In group situations, however, no such obligation exists.
Chapter VI: “Acts of Assistance”
Section 1: The gentleman must never keep a lady waiting, and should strive to be punctual with all of his appointments.
Section 2: A gentleman should always be sensitive to the comfort of ladies. He ought to offer his chair if needed, coat if she may be cold, or umbrella if the weather is inclement.
Section 3: A gentleman should always open doors for ladies, including those of cars. He should also let ladies and superiors precede him when passing through doorways or entering buildings, unless the way must first be prepared.
Section 4: It is commendable to walk a lady to her destination; of course, he ought to obtain her permission to do so. The gentleman should, as a rule, walk with a lady or his superior on his right. Nevertheless, the gentleman should always place himself between a lady or superior and any hazard or annoyance.
Section 5: A gentleman generally should not stop a lady who is walking in order to talk with her. If he wishes to speak, he should simply ask her permission to join her in walking. He should take care that he is not keeping a lady in uncomfortable weather.
Section 6: If a gentleman perceives that a lady is carrying something heavy, he should assist her in carrying it.
Section 7: If a lady drops anything, a gentleman should always pick it up and return it to her promptly.
Section 8: If circumstances permit, a seated gentleman should rise to greet or speak with a lady or superior. He should return to his place only after the lady or superior has been seated.
Section 9: If a gentleman is asked for a favor, he should endeavor to comply, especially if the request comes from a lady, so long as it is possible and/or reasonable to do so. He must also take care not to be overbearing in offering assistance if it is not desired.
Nota bene: These short rules of etiquette are by no means exhaustive in their scope, and are merely a guideline. As a further reference, Emily Post’s Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home of 1922 is a valuable resource. It is available on-line at: Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics and at Home by Emily Post
Edition of: © 5.X.2007.
This guide is a revision of the original “Cole’s Rules of Etiquette for Gentlemen,” Sixth Edition, that was written for the men of
in Front Royal, Virginia. Christendom College
I would like to thank all those who submitted suggestions for this guide, particularly Professor Jenislawski and a certain Latin professor who will remain nameless. In particular, I thank Draper Warren for the formatting of this guide and for his enthusiastic support.